The best way to go is, as corny as it sounds, to work on yourself as a grounded individual. Meanwhile you can still do so much to your physical appearance.
Like, can we just agree, being …not pretty AND having a sense of humor is a fluke to being. Not everyone can do that. A lot times, you're just wondering why people are so much nicer to the popular kid or that fair skinned friend in your group, while you don't care enough about your own genetic identity to carry and represent that with pageant pride, y'know. The thing is, the popular kids probably don't give a shit either. They have people who maintain their self-esteem for them.
The widsom of realizing how amazing it is to be ordinary is beautiful and liberating, but with the strong atmosphere of “what could be/have been” in the world we live in, it's still a fucking work to get your heart around it.
How is it, in the USA, a country with 334 million people, the choice of President comes down to two aged men, one of whom is a liar as well as a criminal, one who appears to be on his way to dementia. Surely a democratic country can put up better?
It's fun to treat yourself anyway. You're a brown Grimace-from-McD-looking individual like me and you want a brighter skin? Go for it. Grab a lotion or pay for something sophisticated, I don't know. Brighter doesn't mean you suddenly possessing the bone structures of Nikolaj Coster-Waldau. Nor should you wish for it. His best quality is probably he's extremely cuddly (mmm…).
I don't think people think about that until maybe much later in their life. Unless they're getting bullied early on for being a different race in their school years, which I know quite a bunch of people experience and that's horrible and sad.
I personally only started to fantasize being a different race well into adulthood. It's mostly a cheerful despair of being not “Hollywood pretty.” I mean it does get worse sometimes. Especially when I came about social media. Gurl, sometimes I do genuinely wish I were (suddenly and magically) a hot Albanian-German mix supermodel with effortless beauty and Olympian bone structure, y'know. *sigh* *fanning myself with a piece of eviction paper from my landlord because I haven't paid my full rent*
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But I'm pretty sure a little kid might have a wish to look like their favorite TV characters and such. You know kids say the darndest things. But I don't know, I'm not a child therapist.
Like, there's a different between thinking, when you're watching a TV show or a movie, “I know and I passively accept that I will never be that cool beautiful white actor that I like.” and “I wonder what it's like working as an actor.” (Without the racial concerns.) Y'know.
I'm sure there are social or regional aspects to racial identity issues. But it's always developed by external forces like that.
How can you tell if someone is cunning?
Um. What were we talking about. Race? Rice? Anyways, go to sleep, my cozy fluffy bitch, I mean friend. And eat your veggies!
I think we inherently don't give a morsel of thought let alone hatred towards our own racial identity. We really are just trying to survive the beauty standards flaunted by other folks who probably don't mean no harm either when we grew up.
Work out a little and be the cutest version of yourself. No bootcamp program required if don't wanna opt-in. Just do it once a week and reward yourself with protein-packed meals, and nap nap.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
